I spent a number of years at New York City working with guys coming out of addiction, homelessness, and incarceration. One of my roles working at the Bowery Mission Residential Center was managing volunteers who wanted to mentor, tutor, or do whatever they could to contribute to the guys’ process of recovery.

The most frequent questions they asked were like, “What do I say to these guys?” or “What should I talk about?”.

It’s incredibly helpful to ask the question nobody wants to ask. Maybe it’s the question you’ve been wrestling with yourself.

In my last couple of newsletters I’ve offered something to answer the question, “Am I an alcoholic?”. If you haven’t signed up for that, do it. I don’t mind giving you a spoiler alert: You’re not an alcoholic. Nobody is.